Is it possible to be modest in the beach, without actually suffering inside? Yes absolutely! We’ve previously written about how modest dress codes in tourist destinations, and how to dress for a cruise. Allow us to tell you how you can look modestly fabulous for the beach!
For starters, thank goodness we live in a digital day and age where you can simply order modest active wear, including swim shirts and cover-up skirts. Offhand, you might wonder, “What’s the difference?” The difference is that these items offer utmost comfort and protection for the modest wearer. They are UV protective, fast drying, and are even chlorine resistant. In the case of the swim shirts, they offer a double fabric panel at the chest, which helps maintain modesty after the area comes in contact with water. Best part of all is that these come in many gorgeous colors. No need to suffer in the heat wearing all-black!
There’s a passage we particularly love, from modest blogger TorahCents on the topic of dressing modestly for the beach:
What I do believe is that modesty is not relative to your situation or location. If your standard of modesty is a bikini on a beach, COOL! Then you should feel just as comfortable and appropriate with that on if you had to run into a grocery store or to church for service.
If you don’t, please believe that outfit is not your standard of modesty. It’s something that you have convinced your heart to believe is ok based upon what society promotes. It is illogical to believe that a bikini or one piece is ok at a public beach, but rocking a bra and panties or a leotard is immodest everywhere else. It’s the same thing—the same level of coverage, just made of different material.
What are your thoughts on dressing modestly in the beach? Let us know!
There are many contrasting opinions on what qualifies to be considered modest clothing. That is mainly because some religions have rules and guidelines on it that are far more strict than others. Furthermore, it varies between different sects of each religion, and between congregations as well. Modest clothing styles also tend to vary between individuals that don’t necessarily have religious affiliations. In their cases, it has more to do with culture and personal preferences.
In general, modest clothing refers to clothing that obviously covers the most private parts of the body, and is also relatively loose-fitting and doesn’t cling to the contours of the body. For most people who choose to dress conservatively, they opt for the types of colors that are more natural and earthy- the blues, greens, blacks, whites, and browns. When it comes to brighter colors such as the vivid pinks, oranges, and yellows- it varies between the wearer. There are many ultra Orthodox women who refrain from wearing bright colors and/or patterns, for modesty purposes.
There are also the matter of dimensions of each garment. In many religions, women are not permitted to wear short shorts. There are some in which women aren’t permitted to wear fitted pants at all, and are advised to wear modest skirts. But how long is a modest skirt expected to be? Well, in some cases it is expected to reach the knee. In others, it is expected to go below the knee. Then there are those that require skirts to reach the ankles. Women are generally also told to avoid see-through clothing, skirts/dresses with long slits, revealing bathing suits, and in many sects even tops with revealing necklines.
Rules of modesty aren’t limited to clothes. There are also restrictions on the wearing of makeup and jewelry. In some faiths, women aren’t allowed to cut their hair. Although it may appear a bit much to some, there are also strict rules of modesty that apply to men as well. The guiding principle behind the rules of modesty and modest clothing is to project humility and not spark sinful thoughts and actions on oneself or others.
Getting ready to step out? Awesome! Before you actually head out, be sure to go over this quick modesty checklist. Your outfit might appear modest at first glance, but there are 5 things we suggest you double-check, to ensure you’re ready to step out.
Bend over forwards in front of a mirror, to ensure your blouse isn’t hanging too low. You may find that you might need to make adjustments, such as wearing a layering piece over or underneath.
Cross your legs, to ensure that your dress or skirt doesn’t crawl up too high.
Raise your hands, to ensure your shirt doesn’t come up towards the bottom. If it does, you may need to slip on a shirt extension.
Check all the buttons. Make sure there isn’t a large open gap between the buttons that reveal what’s underneath. If there is, you can close it up with safety pins, or wear a layering piece underneath.
See-Through Test. Can people see through your outfit in bright lights? If so, consider wearing a slip underneath, and next time, be more mindful of purchasing items of a different material or thickness.
Any other tips you would suggest? Let us know!
What do you think of when you think of orthodox fashion? Instinctively, most people would think of loose, long, and frumpy pieces that are a far cry from being trendy. This is especially the case for women who are expected to cover their collarbones, knees, and elbows for modesty. While the perception of unflattering clothes worn by orthodox women may have been true for a long time in most places- times are changing. Little by little, orthodox fashion is becoming high fashion. That is mainly because many clothing brands, both large and small, are designing apparel that is (finally) modern and trendy.
The current trend, which is likely here to stay, didn’t just come out of nowhere. Religious girls and women worldwide kept facing difficulties in finding modest clothes that met their needs. For example, the long denim skirt would have been perfect if it weren’t for the slit in the back. The long white tunic would have been perfect if the fabric could have been thicker to not make it see-through. And the dress would have been perfect if it weren’t for the cut-outs, peep-holes, and low neck/back. These women had to settle for whatever they could find, and make adjustments by layering up when possible. However, that often led to them sticking out like a sore thumb, especially in areas with warmer climates.
Little by little, major retailers started offering a few modest pieces. Orthodox women flocked over by the masses to purchase the goods, which were finally the perfect mix of modest and stylish. They were beginning to wear outfits that actually gave them joy, confidence, and helped make them stand out. The fashion world began to take notice.
Slowly but surely, trendy modest dresses for women began to emerge to much fanfare from orthodox and nonorthodox women alike. There were ensembles popping up that featured unique color blocks and patterns that made the wearers look and feel more majestic. Neutral colored dresses started coming out with long and flowing designs, making the wearer feel like a goddess. Asymmetrical dresses came out, making the wearer feel like the world was her catwalk. Then there were the dresses with romantic themes, bohemian themes, and more. Women began to rediscover themselves through these dresses, and they are continuing to love every second of it.
We’re currently living in great times in terms of fashion. For most women, it is no longer particularly difficult to find a modest dress that is trendy and made with breathable fabrics. When they step out in their modest gear, they can now do so with full confidence, knowing they look absolutely amazing and in style.
Are you thinking about going on a cruise this summer, but worried about staying modest? Have no fear! We’ll give you some pointers you can keep in mind as you start planning.
For starters, you have to think about the luggage. Most cruise lines don’t have luggage limitation, but then again, most of the cruise cabins have limited closet space. Also, if you’re going to fly to the cruise port, you will have to pack based on the limitations that are imposed by the airlines. Although you will likely bring more than one bag of luggage with you, we highly recommend you pack some essential change-of-clothes with you in your carry-on, just in case your larger bags get misplaced. It happens.
When it comes to deciding what to pack- think about the destinations, and the season/temperature there. If you need additional assistance, cruise travel agents can offer good tips. Common sense plays a big role here. If you’re going on an Alaskan getaway, don’t pack for tropical weather.
Here are some basic things we recommend you pack:
- Modest skirts of varying thickness. Extra points if some of them have deep pockets to secure your phone and wallet.
- Comfortables walking shoes, formal shoes, sandals, and slippers. Please make sure the shoes are already “broken-in” to ensure maximum comfort.
- Sports skirts
- Loose, breezy modest tops
- Modest undergarments
- Casual accessories (sunglasses, hats, shawls, etc)
- Modest dresses for visiting holy sites, or prayer gatherings. You can read more about dressing for tourist destinations in this blog post.
- Elaborate skirt/dress for formal nights on the cruise
- Layering pieces
- Exercise clothes
- Rain gear
Frequent travelers know to pack interchangeable pieces of clothing that can be used for multiple outfits, to save time and luggage space. That will allow more room for souvenirs and other purchases from the trip.
Things will get challenging if you’re looking to completely avoid scantily-clad women during your trip. The best that can be done on that front, is to opt for an Alaskan Cruise (to lessen the numbers of scantily-clad women) and look into Kosher Cruising companies. Bear in mind, Kosher cruises are actually arrangements where the organizers take over a percentage of larger cruises. They reserve rooms and a dining hall for the Kosher program, but the rest of the facilities will be shared with everyone else. It will cost a pretty penny extra, but will be worth it for those looking to take part in prayer services, lectures, and gourmet Kosher dining. Most cruises offer Kosher food anyway, but it would moreso be along the lines of airplane food, which isn’t bad- but not great either.
Do you have some other recommendations worth mentioning? We for sure didn’t cover all there is to be said- so sound off in the comments below!
Modest-dressers typically face a bit of a hard time when it comes to figuring out what to wear at work, especially when it comes to professional office settings. Dressing modestly, by nature, kind of automatically makes the wearer look elegant, which can sometimes be perceived as too formal for a business-casual environment. Is there any problem with that? Well, we don’t think so. We love casual modest women’s fashions. So what’s the balance that needs to be maintained? Is it even possible? Absolutely!
In a nutshell, the key is to have a lot of the basics, and wear them on rotation. Doing so would give you the ability to look fantastic and appropriate day in and day out, while still remaining conservative and trendy.
Pencil skirts are one of the must-haves. The following slideshow offers some different style inspirations on how they can be rocked.
Button down shirts are another staple everyone must have. We know there are lots of modesty concerns surrounding white shirts/blouses, which is why we make our white garments using thicker materials. Here is a slideshow that offers inspiration on how to rock button-downs in professional settings.
Blazers are another fantastic essential for the workplace, and they come in so many fantastic styles and colors. They’re a great layering piece to cover up open backs/short sleeves, and hey- you don’t have to iron the backs of shirts if you’re going to wear a blazer over it anyway. Here are some style inspirations for blazers.
As we have mentioned in a previous blog post, accessorizing is key. However, in the workplace, there are right and wrong ways of doing it. It mainly boils down to each individual work environment. In some cases, heavy accessorizing could be a part of the company image. In other cases, people might go for brighter and chunkier pieces for a more youthful vibe. Generally speaking, classics are best and fool-proof in professional settings. Stick with the stud or hoop earrings, dainty bracelets/necklaces/watches, and be minimalistic with your rings. When it comes to bags, shoes, and belts- opt for quality pieces that will last many years and through changing trends.