When it comes to discussing the topic of modesty in clothing, whose responsibility is it? Is it all on the girls and women, because they are the ones that lead men towards temptation? Many would say that there is absolutely no justification for the way men think towards women, however, we will say that the responsibility is split between absolutely everyone.
In many ways, this ties in with ‘it takes a whole village to raise one child.’ Similarly, it is up to young girls and her guardians to discuss the values of modesty. It is also up to the guardians of young boys to discuss the values of respect. However, this discussion mustn’t start and end at home. The real world is outside of home. It is just as important for discussions of this nature to take place in larger community venues, especially religious establishments.
There is one thing that typically stops conversations of this nature from starting in religious institutions, and that is fear. Leaders oftentimes find themselves conflicted and afraid of potentially offending anyone who might be in attendance. Why? Because then the person might feel uncomfortable to return to the establishment. It’s a difficult topic to address, because the definition of modesty varies between one and all. How can they answer just how fashionable is too fashionable, or how attractive is too attractive?
Modesty is a community effort. Males and females alike need to gently let one another know of their thoughts on the types of garments that send off the wrong kind of message in their area. Young girls need to be taught to treat their bodies as temples, and that their true beauty will only come from their inner character- not the way they ornament themselves.
What are your thoughts on this topic? Let us know in the comments below!
Getting ready to step out? Awesome! Before you actually head out, be sure to go over this quick modesty checklist. Your outfit might appear modest at first glance, but there are 5 things we suggest you double-check, to ensure you’re ready to step out.
Bend over forwards in front of a mirror, to ensure your blouse isn’t hanging too low. You may find that you might need to make adjustments, such as wearing a layering piece over or underneath.
Cross your legs, to ensure that your dress or skirt doesn’t crawl up too high.
Raise your hands, to ensure your shirt doesn’t come up towards the bottom. If it does, you may need to slip on a shirt extension.
Check all the buttons. Make sure there isn’t a large open gap between the buttons that reveal what’s underneath. If there is, you can close it up with safety pins, or wear a layering piece underneath.
See-Through Test. Can people see through your outfit in bright lights? If so, consider wearing a slip underneath, and next time, be more mindful of purchasing items of a different material or thickness.
Any other tips you would suggest? Let us know!
Ladies and gentlemen- modesty goes both ways. It is not just for the ladies. We’ve previously written about universal rules of modesty for women. That got us thinking- what about men? Are there general, universal rules to modesty (in terms of appearance) for men? The answer is YES!
Granted, it’s all relative. Interpretations of what is considered to be modest varies between different cultures, religions, and of course individuals. As we did our reading, we came across lots of parallels between different religious sects in terms of how men are expected to upkeep their appearance. And of course, we decided to share them with you!
The rules of modesty for men narrow down to two categories: physical appearance, and clothing/behavior. Yes, clothing is paired with behavior, because as we’ve previously written, there is a direct correlation between the two.
Men are generally expected to keep their hair short. Although the accepted length varies between religions and cultures, they’re generally expected to keep the hair on their head shorter than women. The modern trends of men shaving themselves smooth for the sake of vanity is generally frowned upon. In most instances, it’s a different story if it’s solely for hygienic reasons around particular parts of the body. It’s generally acceptable for men to maintain a smooth face, or keep facial hair- but the bottom line is whichever route they choose, they have to keep themselves nicely groomed.
Men are also expected to look after their health and fitness across the board. But how much is too much? Well, it’s okay for a man to exercise to be fit and gain some muscle. However, reactions get mixed when a man goes after obtaining an excessively muscular appearance- because again- that taps into vanity.
Things get interesting when it comes to jewelry and other accessories. There are mixed opinions on men wearing earrings and/or excessive jewelry such as gold chains. In most cases, it’s okay for a married man to wear a wedding band, and there are also cases where it would only be okay if the material isn’t made out of gold, because gold is considered too flashy. It is unanimously accepted for men to wear watches, but only if it isn’t heavily adorned. The same applies with religious symbols- he can wear it, just as long as the piece itself is very subtle.
Clothing and Behavior
Because men, in most cultures, play a more authoritative role in society, it is generally expected that they dress modestly to be taken seriously. You just wouldn’t expect an authoritative person to approach their role in clothing that is tight, revealing, or flashy. Elder men are expected to inspire and set an example of modesty for younger men, as well as women and children. This assists in encouragement of modest behavior as well.
Men are expected to speak and act in ways that clearly demonstrate righteousness. Yes, popular culture does make that difficult for younger men of today, which makes it that much more important for those that are close to them to motivate them to get on, and stay on the modest track.
Are their some other general rules of modesty for men that you know of? Let us know in the comments below!
Modest-dressers typically face a bit of a hard time when it comes to figuring out what to wear at work, especially when it comes to professional office settings. Dressing modestly, by nature, kind of automatically makes the wearer look elegant, which can sometimes be perceived as too formal for a business-casual environment. Is there any problem with that? Well, we don’t think so. We love casual modest women’s fashions. So what’s the balance that needs to be maintained? Is it even possible? Absolutely!
In a nutshell, the key is to have a lot of the basics, and wear them on rotation. Doing so would give you the ability to look fantastic and appropriate day in and day out, while still remaining conservative and trendy.
Pencil skirts are one of the must-haves. The following slideshow offers some different style inspirations on how they can be rocked.
Button down shirts are another staple everyone must have. We know there are lots of modesty concerns surrounding white shirts/blouses, which is why we make our white garments using thicker materials. Here is a slideshow that offers inspiration on how to rock button-downs in professional settings.
Blazers are another fantastic essential for the workplace, and they come in so many fantastic styles and colors. They’re a great layering piece to cover up open backs/short sleeves, and hey- you don’t have to iron the backs of shirts if you’re going to wear a blazer over it anyway. Here are some style inspirations for blazers.
As we have mentioned in a previous blog post, accessorizing is key. However, in the workplace, there are right and wrong ways of doing it. It mainly boils down to each individual work environment. In some cases, heavy accessorizing could be a part of the company image. In other cases, people might go for brighter and chunkier pieces for a more youthful vibe. Generally speaking, classics are best and fool-proof in professional settings. Stick with the stud or hoop earrings, dainty bracelets/necklaces/watches, and be minimalistic with your rings. When it comes to bags, shoes, and belts- opt for quality pieces that will last many years and through changing trends.
Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge sure knows how to dress! The more we see her in her public appearances, the more we want to dress like her. Doesn’t she always look fabulous? The best part of all about her style is that it is classy and conservative.
You gotta love the fact that despite her position, she isn’t afraid to wear outfits multiple times. Good on her- because some of her outfits sure cost a pretty penny. Then again, she is also known the wear the typical mall brands that we all know and love as well. Bearing all this in mind- she is very much like one of us. So if you put the two and two together, we can all dress just like the Duchess by keeping a few things in mind.
Let’s start with the most basic factor- stick to dressing modestly. Wait, you already do? Awesome! You’re one step closer to looking like a Duchess!
To dress more like Kate, you would have to steer clear from printed clothing. She tends to stick to solid colors. Sure, we all love prints to some extent, but if you think about it, maybe it’s those solid colors that always keep her looking more chic, slender, and feminine. Also, you have to admit, one of the perks of owning lots of solid-color items is the fact that you can wear some of them multiple times in a short time frame, and no one would really notice. And don’t forget- you can always accessorize to add pops of color into your ensemble. Kate for the most part, tends to stick to one solid color by going monochrome. The results are stunning.
Kate also let’s out really ultra-feminine vibes, because she subtly incorporates girly things into her wardrobe time to time. You’ll periodically see her wearing something that has details such as lace, bows, flowers, beads, or soft pastels. Sure, this may not work for everyone, but it certainly works for her!
One thing we love about her style is a concept that we live by- modest doesn’t have to mean frumpy! Kate wears dresses that flatter her body, without being skin-tight. The fit of her dresses modestly accentuate her figure.
That’s pretty much the basics of the style of Duchess Kate. Now if you want to know why she always looks amazing in photographs- that has nothing to do with what she is wearing. It has everything to do with the fact that she warmly smiles a lot. That is because Kate is comfortable, and confident in her skin, as we all should be.